Every time you’re in a relationship, there will be friends and family who will give you a set of dating tips and conventions that you are expected to follow. However, these stereotyped rules aren’t necessarily the secret to a successful and long-lasting relationship. Rather than blindly following these laws, play by your own instinct. We’ve shortlisted some of the most common and outdated concepts of dating that are better off ignoring.
- Girls should play hard to get.
Paying attention to the guy who has shown his interest in you doesn’t mean you’re an easy girl. It simply means you are giving yourselves a chance to get to know each other. If you are into this guy but insist on playing hard to get, it could turn him off or give him the impression that you are no t interested in him. Guys might like the thrill of the chase, but if you portray ‘I don’t care’ signals, they may just quit pursuing you and move on.
- After the first date, wait for a day before calling him.
Why wait that long to communicate? If you had a great time with someone, go ahead and let him know. If you put it off for too long, you might send the message that you didn’t like the date and that you’re not interested. If you’re afraid of getting turned down, go for a more passive way of communicating, like texting or messaging him on Facebook. This way, you still get to close the deal, while minimizing the ‘ouch’ factor.
- The guy should say ‘I Love You’ first.
Many women suppress their true feelings, because they believe that the guy should be the first one to confess his feelings. Just because tradition says that the girl should wait for the guy to propose, it doesn’t mean that the girl can’t do the same thing. If you know you love him, do not wait for him to reach the same conclusion. Be brave to confess your feelings. He is courting you because he likes you, and he’ll be happy to know you feel the same way, too.
- Get rid of all evidence of the past.
You both had a life, and perhaps a happy relationship, before you two crossed paths. You most likely have a whole bunch gifts and photos of happy memories with your ex before you decided to go separate ways. Are you supposed to get rid of all those memories and act as if it never existed? As long as you no longer have feelings for your past, there should be no problem with existing photos of your past relationship or keeping gifts from your ex.
Needless to say, these dating rules need to go away. You do not need a set of rules to tell you how you are supposed to treat your present relationship. Love is all about embracing your feelings and the person that completes you.
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